being all the goddess you can be
Filed Under (love, openings, possibilities) by tinque on 22-02-2010
Can you imagine feeling your full, lusciousness, your goddessness which is your birthright as a woman most if not all the time? Can you imagine feeling fabulous no matter your size, shape, or age?
Can you imagine a heart so big and open and spilling over with love, you can suspend yourself over the edge of a precipice utterly fearless? Can you imagine this precipice as love for yourself? How about your man?
Can you imagine allowing yourself the freedom to feel wonder and awe each time you touch, kiss, embrace, make love? Can you imagine feeling renewed, replenished in the gift that your lover fills you with, his member as well as his love? Can you imagine falling in love over and over again with the same man?
When our relationships don’t work out, we tend to push our goddess selves aside. We lose faith in love. We may even believe that love is for anyone but us. We fall into the trap of believing we are unlovable, undesirable. And this just keeps our true goddess self even more deeply buried.
But you are lovable and desirable all the time. You are a goddess all the time. If you can believe this, then you will naturally do the things to make you feel this even more, your juiciness, your gorgeous goddess self. Goddessness will ooze from you more and more. You will feel this wonderful feeling more and more even when your heart is hurting.
One of the most critical things you must do to recapture your goddess self if she has faded into the background is to stop being critical of how you think you look. You only look that way to you, and this perception must be changed. You must come to own that you are beautiful regardless of anything, period, end of sentence, nothing more to say.
You are uniquely you, and there is nothing more beautiful than that. Why compare yourself to another when there is no comparison to be made.
Every time you pass a mirror, blow yourself a big kiss. OUT LOUD, tell yourself you are beautiful, stunning. Tell yourself how special you are. Tell yourself you love yourself.
Yes you may feel silly doing this, but do it anyway. Yes your lying little gremlin voices will want to jump in and deny everything you just said and did. Tell them to shut up. In time you will believe yourself.
It also doesn’t matter how much you get done in a day or what you do to make money. It doesn’t matter what you wear, what kind of if any make-up you put on, or how you style your hair. The images the media give you are NOT REAL, so ignore them. Avoid magazines if you must. Change the channel on ads that promote these kinds of falsehoods. Fixating on any of this keeps you from coming into your true self.
All that matters is that your heart is open and you are experiencing all the joy and love the universe has for you whether you are in a relationship with a man or not. You are always in a relationship with yourself, “THE ONE” whether “the one” is in your life or not. “THE ONE” is you by the way. There is no greater love than love for you. “the one” is a wonderfully lovely extra surprise.
And when he is there, you WILL be able to feel every little bit of him with this huge heart you’ve allowed. You WILL feel each and and every nuance when you make love. You WILL fill up with SO much love. You WILL fall in love with this amazing man and with yourself over and over again, maybe every time you see each other. Because you WILL feel brave enough to be vulnerable with your heart, with him. You being all the goddess you can be.
So open your heart as big as you can. Feel the freedom therein. Speak in her voice. Expect nothing. Be forever surprised. Feel your love. Love what you feel. Embrace your sensuality. Love your sexuality. When you are experiencing your fullness, living each moment as if it is your first, when you cease to be constantly in your head and you sink deeply within your body, feeling all that you feel, your true goddess self can than emerge unabashedly, vibrantly alive, full of lusciousness. Step off of your safe little ledge, and just know that someone or something will be there to catch you. (YOU MAYBE?)
Loving yourself hugely and freely, allowing yourself to be authentically you is the biggest turn on, and it gifts you with a grace and essence that is timeless, eternally youthful. And this can’t help but enhance “THE ONE” and thus attract “the one”.
xxoo
I love it ! ! ! ! ! !
Thank you Uschi….:)
xxoo
Tinque Again,You have captured your written words with love, you are an amazing woman.
hugs and love
Sheila
Hugs and Love back at you Sheila.
xxoo
Sorry can’t deal with this new age “goddess” nonsense Goodbye
I’m so sorry you feel offended Lily. The point is to feel to the depths of your heart. Women have been denied, have denied themselves for so long. Not all women but too many.
Goddess is a word used to represent the fullness of your womanhood. It’s not meant as an intangible, head in the clouds kind of thing. Women who come to own their depths are very grounded, of this earth, yet mysterious and magical in a very real way.
It’s simply a word Lily and one that has triggered you. I feel sad for this, but try taking a look at why this word disturbs you so.
I hope you come back to visit. I have really enjoyed your presence.
xxoo
Lily, I too will miss your posts…I feel like we have allot in common.I feel like you were reaching out, “Someone once told me, when the student is ready the teacher will appear”
I remember reading 3 years ago after I Found my daughters daddy in a back alley overdozed…on something, that is a very long story…He died.
Getting back to what Tinque has written, I thought exactly like you did… But the way I interpreted the goddess part was that I was love and I deserved love….I sure didn’t feel like a goddess, i was abused sexually,emotionally,physically,spiritually and mentally, I didn’t know what real love was until I started to learn to love myself and to own my parts in all of my relationships.I sure didn’t feel like a Goddess. For me its loving myself and feeling,sexy,beautiful,confident,worthy etc.
Anything I read I take what will be useful for me and work on those areas.
I hope you read this and also come back.
Hugs Sheila
Beautifully expressed Sheila. I agree that “goddess” has taken on an odd and for some apparently a negative connotation, maybe from overuse, but feeling like a goddess is indeed feeling like love which is what we all are.
I cam imagine Greek goddesses maybe, like Aphrodite more specifically, someone very human yet almost bigger than life, full of spirit, full of love, full of womanliness, falling down, blundering, getting back up again and keeping on, all the while her heart staying wide open, radiant.
I too did not feel goddess like for most of my life. I still struggle with it sometimes, yet I have grown to love/embrace the sense a goddess conveys. I have chosen to adore this word as hesitant as I can feel sometimes to step into my fullness as a woman, my sensuality, my sexuality, my love.
xxoo
A beautiful, post, Tinque but if I think with compassion from my own experiences I can understand being triggered by the word depending on what we are going through.
I saw an ex, someone that told me stories about why we couldn’t be together at the moment and it turned out to be lies. I sat, like a character in a bad movie, as I watched him walk in with a woman much younger than me that looked nothing like me (long, brown silky hair) with enormous breast implants (got nothing against them but these were of the Pamela Anderson ilk) and felt like every word he ever said to me about how I was the “flat out sexiest woman he’s ever met” was all BS (it was). I was never, could never be THAT! and THAT was what he wanted.
Did it really hurt less to realize that he was a shallow man, a liar and that we weren’t actually “a couple” at the time this happened? No. It shook me to my core. How would I ever believe a man when in the future when he told me how beautiful I am? I mean, beautiful women (and men) are everywhere but when someone is supposedly in love with you, you want to believe that you are the most beautiful woman in the world – to him.
I know that so much of this goes back to my childhood. My dad has changed and is today so much more complimentary but when I was a little girl he never told me I was beautiful. In fact, I clearly remember being with him and meeting some friends of his and as he introduced me to them as his daughter he added that his other daughter, “the beautiful one” wasn’t there. The people, clearly felt uncomfortable and tried to smooth it over but it stayed in my heart.
That moment and the one watching this guy walk in with this woman, every man’s fantasy, hurt me to my core. Of course, believing that all a man really cares about is appearance and it doesn’t matter how big your HEART is, how smart you are, etc. etc. – it all comes down to he’ll always choose prettier, yes, starting with my dad, that is probably exactly why I attracted this man and exactly why I DID have to learn that, no matter what, everything you write is true.
I am a goddess because I do have a big beautiful heart and when I love I love fully. For a man that only values the external, no denying it, I wasn’t “enough” for him but as a woman that values the beauty inside, if he couldn’t treat me as the goddess that I am – a precious jewel – he wasn’t “enough” for me.
In the end, the men in my life that have taken me for granted and we parted company (even if we both agreed to it) all have come back looking for me – even many years later. Too bad it has always been too late.
Love you Miss DocK – This is perfect.
“I am a goddess because I do have a big beautiful heart and when I love I love fully. ”
xxoo
Smooch and love to you, Beautiful Tinque!
I guess I also have a belief that this experience had to happen for me to challenge it. Being faced with someone that did truly place physical beauty above all else and, initially, feeling “less than” and all sorts of ugliness, I had to actually work through all of the “is this true?” stuff. I had to decide whether or not I was going to let this one person’s opinion define me and my inner value. I had to decide to reject the notion that all or most men were like this. I came face to face with someone that represented what I believed and internalized from such a young age and walked away from it, not weaker, as someone might think as if this “validated” what I believed. It didn’t – because I chose to love myself anyway, and for whole bunches of men – I AM their fantasy woman because of my smile, my inner light, my playfulness, my true appreciation of a good man, my intelligence, my curiosity of life, how much I like people and oh yeah, cuz I do also have a nice butt LOL!
yes! yes! yes! yes! yes! yes! Yes! To all your questions in the beginning!
beautiful. as are you goddess tinque.
awesome times seven simply sensual Staceyface.
xxoo
Tinque,
Amazing post as always.I remember reading about the real meaning of love and being a goddess afew years back and it didn’t make sense to my mind but deep down the words felt like home and i longed to understand and experience what it was all about….
I am glad i went through the experience of not knowing who i really was because then i am able to really appreciate who i am..each day i learn,i read,i experience the real essence of who i am….I feel my heart opening up and you say it so well in your post…i am uniquely me and there is nothing more beautiful than that!hugs.
Big hugs back at you Tracey. I feel honored to be a part of your journey.
xxoo