love
Filed Under ("truths", love, openings, possibilities, the journey) by tinque on 18-01-2010
I had another piece in mind to offer this week. It was nearly finished, but I received a reminder, an inspiration, so I’ve switched gears and offer you this slightly different perspective on something I love to talk about, as much as sex, LOVE.
I want to reiterate something I have spoken of often, that we are ALL born as love. This thought and feeling bears repeating over and over again, for it’s far too easy to become overwhelmed with “life” and thus let this be masked, hidden even from our own consciousness.
This innateness we carry is often buried under many, many layers of hurt, pain, or trauma though. So in order to rediscover who we really are at heart, we must set off on our journey of uncovery which can be difficult, filled with its own pain, as the layers are peeled away.
This journey is not for the faint of heart. It’s not an easy process uprooting old ickyness, but it most definitely gets easier, and the rewards are beyond anything you can imagine and then some.
Love is frequently presented as the opposite of fear. I have said this numerous times, but how about looking at it this way. See if this resonates with you more.
We are all made of this love and live our whole lives at one with it, whether we know it or not.
All our emotions are made of the very love in which they float as well.
And the negative emotions we feel are just bits of flotsam floating around in the pool of our cores, and this pool is love.
All things beautiful and ugly, courageous and fearful, kind and not so kind, powerful and subservient come to be, affect us as they do for awhile, and then they drift away to transform into something else in this endless pool of love. IF we allow ourselves to fully feel these emotions.
So how about this: True love is not the opposite of anything. For true love is far more powerful than any negative emotion.
You can remain trapped in a negative feeling eddy within your pool if you don’t allow yourself to fully feel these emotions, yet still this pool is love, true love.
It is an illusion that you are separate from this gorgeous love force that drives your being and keeps the universe in motion. It is this same illusion which causes you to believe that choosing anything other than love could make any sense or even be possible.
In this seemingly dualistic world of positive and negative, darkness and light, male and female, you will still feel “bad” feeling feelings, and you will still feel good feeling feelings; you will still have to make decisions, choices; you will still have cause and effect arising from your decisions, choices, and you will learn from them, or you won’t.
Underlying all of this though which is likely found in the shallow end of your pool, quite accessible, is the true choice which is to be aware, conscious of what you are which is love or to be unaware, unconscious.
When you become aware enough to realize you have this choice, it’s inevitable you will choose love which is what you are anyway.
When you are able to have this awareness, that we are all made of love, it will facilitate an ease within, a peace, a joy, a loving wisdom intertwined with a delightful sense of fun, as you live your days knowing that love is all there is.
The love that you cultivate or return to with your awareness will shed light on the love that is everywhere, that connects us all, and this light you shine will shine more brightly to maybe light the way for another who may have forgotten their own love or lost their way.
You are here to remember love. You are here to choose love. You are here to be love. You are LOVE.
xxoo
define the word love and what it means to you the feeling the understanding of it – not as given in the dictionary but as you see it.
Awesome question Uschi – And very difficult to answer. T
In my opinion there are different kinds of love, levels and degrees being a poor way to describe it, yet meaning that you wouldn’t love your favorite ice cream like you love your cat, and you wouldn’t love your cat as you would your. child. Your love for your child is a different sort of love than the love you have for your soul mate.
Yet they are the same meaning they arise from the same source, your core, your heart.
I will limit my definition to the love I feel for my beau.
There are no words to fully express the feelings I have which I would call love. It’s a mixture of passion, sexual and otherwise, deep warmth for this person and around him, safety, comfort, total and complete trust, the sense that there is no one else I would rather be with or hang around with.
For no one else makes me feel more alive or happier. No one else inspires the lust and passion I feel when with him, within myself and for him. No one else can make me laugh as he can. I feel at peace, calm.
I hope this helps.
xxoo
Its official…your blogs and my mind are in sync. This is about the 3rd time (recently, that is) that I have been right on this same subject somewhere in my own mind and needing someone to just say it in a way that “clicks” …THANK YOU….LOVE this post.
It truly is all right there…it never “wasn’t”…there is no “destination”…we are the destination…all the time we have been…amazing when I can know I just have to turn back around…turn right into me and its there….like fumbling around for a damn light switch in a room I have been in a hundred times over. LOL! My favorite…”When you are able to have this awareness, that we are all made of love, it will facilitate an ease within, a peace, a joy, a loving wisdom intertwined with a delightful sense of fun, as you live your days knowing that love is all there is.” Beautiful.
Thank you for following your inspiration on this one. LOA to the rescue as always for me! HUGS!
Funny how complicated we can make things when it really doesn’t have to be so. All that really needs be done is just BE.
xxoo
Yup yup yup! (my usual “acadamese”) – Love just is!
Yup yup yup…
xxoo
Tinque,
Thanks for elaborating more about the negative and positive feelings.It makes so much sense now and i realize that what i have done in the past is suppress those feelings that felt painful and uncomfortable.
So much is coming out and i see more and more ways in which ii have neglected and failed to love myself.I totally agree with the fact that the road to self discovery requires courage and patience and i do feel afraid sometimes of what may pop out of my dark hidden feelings…I feel grateful for your words of wisdom and encouragement.I feel more hopeful of discovering true and everlasting love.hugs!
Hugs back at you Tracy. Thank you for your lovely and gracious presence.
It’s natural to want to avoid painful feelings, yet it’s the only way to release them to make room for better feeling ones.
And remember, the love you seek is already right there inside you.
xxoo
how curious, tinque! i seem to be in sync here as well. before even reading this most recent post of yours, just a day ago i set on a course to discover true love for myself. i had previously defined it for myself as acceptance. but maybe i will come to a new conclusion that is perhaps a little more exciting and lively!
thank you for another lovely post.
Hi Staceyface – Exciting is far more exciting. Yes?
I was in TJs today and thought of you, I forgot to ask for a balloon though, too wrapped up in my thoughts. lol
xxoo
Tinque, after reading your heartfelt words of wisdom, i came to this conclusion: when i was born, i was a baby created by a power higher than myself. i was “loved” simply b/c i was a baby, i couldn’t DO anything to be loved…i was just loved. Unfortunately, as i grew and b/c i didn’t understand why i was feeling empty or rejected or abandoned or sad or any of those horrible negativites…i just felt something wasn’t “right”. The more i was left to myself with no direction, no wise guidence, the more i kept making impetuous, immature choices that would have me turn on myself, hence the suicide attempts. i hated the way my life was unfolding and with every wrong choice, i couldn’t bear the discouraging and emotionally hurtful circumstances. Geez, am i making any sense to you?? i know what it is i’m trying to explain as best i can.
After putting myself, unawares, on this downward spiral path, the love i started out with, was completely reversed, squelched and turned into every evil thought and emotion to the point of lashing out to others and then turning on myself . Alcohol, sex,drugs and revenge were my weapons of choice.
To listen to you talk about us “being” love especially through vulnerability (which used to always make me feel weak), i now see the possibility of it being Truth. If i see myself as worthless and UN lovable, i will never see the love in anyone else. Am i almost getting it?
With Love ~Lily
Lily you make every sense in the world to me. I am thrilled beyond words that you get it, and you are SO getting it.
To be able to come up from such a very dark place as you have takes so much courage and strength and yes love. And you see it. Maybe you don’t feel it yet, and maybe you do.
It took me a long time to feel it, and it can still be tenuous at times. But it’s there. I too came from a very dark place, and I am here to tell you it’s truth. You as love is truth.
xxoo