We ALL have fear.
We all have stuff which gets in our way, holds us back, interferes, and all of this comes down to our fears.
We women are funny creatures, so in our heads, often a great deal of the time, and this can make us kind of crazy, nutty, insane, mostly driving ourselves batty with the internal noise.
Being in your head so much of the time, tends to keeps you not only in superficial negative emotions, feeling cranky, irritable, critical, annoyed, somewhat angry, it also keeps you from moving forward all that much, let alone into a better feeling place.
Even sadness and deeper, true anger, rage if you will, will be more difficult to access when all of this chatter swirls round and round in your head.
As for love, even if you think you feel love, it’s still mostly head produced, so you’re not really FEELING it at all. You’re THINKING it.
All of this busyness in the brain? Besides keeping you in a state of anxiety, it keeps you in avoidance.
This constant talking covers over your fears, fear you will be lost in bad feeling feelings, fear that you will sink and never resurface, fear that you will disappear, fear of facing your demons whatever they may be and whatever their origins. Abandonment is a BIG one and a common one. And these fears are indeed really scary, so your loud voices inside act as white noise in a way, but it’s not serving you in any GOOD way whatsoever.
It keeps you from confronting what’s at the heart of this chaos in your mind.It keeps you from feeling what’s really bothering you, what’s REALLY going on.
This cacophony keeps you from feeling your fears, and the more you keep your fears at bay, ironically the more it keeps you from feeling your heart let alone your deepest heart. It keeps you out of your true core self, your pure love self. Which can also drive away the one you want around the most, your beloved.
Calm and peace, serenity and bliss won’t figure into a being filled with a noisy brain.This why one of the HUGEST proponents of my work is to teach women to be more in their bodies, sinking, feeling, BEING, less doing, little thinking.
It’s not to say you will be spared feeling bad when you can learn to be more in your body than in your head. Your bad feeling feelings, your sadness will never go away entirely. And really you wouldn’t want them to. How would you recognize feeling good if you don’t feel bad sometimes?
When you can sink into your body and feel all of these feelings which ebb and flow all day long (this would include the bad feeling ones too), when you are able to really allow ALL of it, the lovely loving love feelings when they bubble up and pervade, when they are truly present, will envelop you in an incomparable profound bliss.
Does it help to know that your fears likely originated within as a child, when you were a small precious little girl?
You can heal your little girl inside by feeling these fears of yours so you can then access her, be with her. So you can become her friend and ally. So you can hug on her and love her, wipe away her tears when she feels sad or scared.
You heal her by knowing she will never “grow up” and loving this. She’s as much a part of you as the outside evolving, maturing, and maybe sometimes wise you. You heal her by incorporating her as a part of you, not a separate part, a part of the whole beautiful being who is you.
All of these pieces are you, and if you can embrace fear as being an important piece of you too and really allowing it, the end result is that you will feel better, more whole, more wholly you. YOU have made room for your fears to move through you. They are not something to fight but something to feel, so they can then dissolve or mostly so. The resistance to fear perpetuates it. Release resistance, and YOU can flow, as your fears flow out of you.
YOU gorgeous YOU, a being who acknowledges and embraces her fears.