Hello and welcome. This is Dominique…
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to feel you’re “enough” for ANY man or better yet YOUR man? Have you ever imagined what it would feel like having your old insecurities just fade away while your old fears dissolve into the glow of true love you can just FEEL from him ALL the time as well as receiving all the attention and affection you might only have dreamed of?
This CAN happen for you.
I know this because I did it for myself. If I was able to come to feeling SO GOOD from the horrible place I started in, I KNOW you can.
I brought myself out of a deep abyss of pain and struggle, overtaken by feelings of betrayal and abandonment, vacillating, not knowing what to with myself or my relationship. I felt SO lost.
What happened and what I did with it -
My story begins like yours may have (please let me know your story, I would love to know how I can best help you).
I was in a happy relationship. My man and I were in love; we got along so well, and then all of a sudden I felt as though I had been thrown off a cliff to shatter into a million pieces below. I discovered he was looking at porn on his computer. I was utterly DEVASTATED. The bottom of my heart fell out.
Worrying about other maybe prettier women as well as thoughts of maybe being rejected, abandoned, or cheated on have always been HUGE issues for me. I could easily fall into obsession around this. And now here were hundreds, THOUSANDS of other women he was looking at. Maybe lusting for? He was regularly looking at pictures of naked women right there in my house on the computer I use too!!!
And he wasn’t just looking every now and then. This wasn’t just “guy” stuff I could ignore. It felt like cheating. It felt like I had been punched so hard in the gut I had no breath left in me. All my fears of abandonment, all of my insecurities, some of which I was unaware, just OVERWHELMED me. My brain scrambled for anything, any kind of answer, trying to put any semblance of sense to this. I couldn’t nor did I want to deal with it.
I started questioning everything I knew about my man and my relationship. Any good feelings I might have had about myself withered away, and I was plunged into a pit of self-loathing and self-recrimination. Because I had always been raised to be so nice and sweet, never rocking the boat, I couldn’t access ANY anger let alone acknowledge it. And at first it was all directed at ME.
I had NO idea what to do or where to turn. I wanted to just disappear. All I could feel was the one question burning in my heart: “Why am I not ENOUGH for him?”
The details of your personal story may differ from mine, maybe even wildly, BUT the feelings which have been aroused are likely VERY much the same. Helplessness. Hopelessness. Fear. Yes?
Over the next couple of years, I found my answers, and it wasn’t AT ALL what I thought they might be. Indeed I needed to work through a great deal before I could feel good, and learn how to FEEL like I was not only ENOUGH, I was MORE than PLENTY, and I, ME, was FABULOUS.
And now I DO feel INCREDIBLY fabulous.
But a huge part of my process and what became an inroad into myself was working through my body, discovering where I how I hold tension and mostly chronically whether it be from physical or emotional injury. This was a KEY piece. We all hold our hurts and traumas within our tissues which manifests as holding, and these holdings directly affect how you feel on all levels, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They also affect how you respond and react to just about any situation. They cloud your ability to assess what is REALLY going on within you and without you, all around you.
I also discovered that my sexuality was all tied into this as well. I decided to consciously explore this aspect of myself, what sex is REALLY all about and not just how it relates to my man’s porn, but what role it plays within ME. I discovered that all those same hurts and traumas which manifested in my body were also lying deeply within my sex, interfering with my ability to feel down there.
On this, what was a particular difficult feeling part of my journey, I had to find out who ME was, AUTHENTIC, real ME. I had to find out not only what I could and couldn’t live with, what were and were not deal breakers for me, I also had to dig down deeply into some very dark places and confront my most primal fears. AND I also had to somehow create a whole new relationship with my man, part of which involved not only learning how to express my feelings to him in a way he could hear, but also a relationship which also deepened our connection.
Discovering a more profound sense of myself through my body which included my sensuality and sexuality became a profound vehicle for working through my fears which led to an unveiling of a love for myself as well as a love for my man. I OPENED myself up in a way I’d never even imagined was possible. And in this I HEALED. And as I was doing this for myself, my relationship with my man turned into something SPECTACULAR.
What I was able to do for myself is something I’ve never heard ANY therapist, coach, writer, or woman talk about.
And I want to do this for YOU.
You can learn how to get so close to your man, every other relationship you hear about will pale in comparison. It doesn’t matter whether your man looks at porn like mine did, or it’s something completely different which triggers you, hurts you. Or maybe you just KNOW you can be closer to him but don’t know how to get there.
I will reveal the ways I discovered to be very effective in effecting the changes I sought within ME, and because I was changing, as is inevitable, changes happened within HIM as well, good changes, and happily things changed WITHIN US too, yummy changes. He healed as I did. AND we grew TOGETHER in uniquely profound ways. For a man heals best through a woman’s heart.
~ I will teach you how to not only face the pain but also how to have it work for you.
~ I will show you how to uncover and face your fears and open them into your heart that you may trust.
~ I will give you detailed instructions on how to become far more intimate with your body and thus yourself.
If you so choose, we can also take an erotic walk together to explore your sexuality and unleash maybe the most powerful orgasms you have ever had and in so doing, your partner will be brought more deeply into you and you him to enjoy not only the most pleasure you’ve ever had, but also the most profound connection to each other. And you will have SO much FUN doing so.
And in this you can heal your mind, heart, and spirit.
- Tools and tips to help you heal
- Learn how to recognize and root out fear
- Ways to open your heart and keep it open no matter what is happening
- Learn how to trust – yourself and him
- Communication skills to bring you closer right away
- Learn how to heal your body and release tensions.
- Learn how to heal yourself sexually and have the best time doing so
- Learn more about orgasms than you could have imagined and have the most mind blowing ones
- And so much more
If you would like this for yourself, please join me for an AMAZING JOURNEY….
xxoo Love, Dominique
My first impression of your book – very, very good – yet scary, very scary for the simple reason it makes me realize how much work I have to do on myself and being unsure if I can master it, knowing how easy it is to fall into old comfortable habits. But also knowing it isn’t impossible. The saying “women are the stronger sex” is never more clear than with what is being said and expressed in this book. Many of us women have to realize that we have to overcome so many negative things that have been drilled into our brains and beings. This, written by a woman who had to overcome many emotional obstacles and has made it out to the other end of the tunnel, is the best guidance that I have found for me. Her story resonated with me, even though circumstances are somewhat different – yet the core of it all is the same.
I LOVE YOUR BOOK – I have a sense of resolve reading it. I feel I wanna give you a big strong hug for being so strong and courageous to write this, share yourself like this and with it opening a whole new personal world for those who are ready to take those steps into a new and better me.
~ Mystique-Love
Dominique is someone who I can go to when I need very straightforward, heartfelt answers to my relationship questions. She has a way of making relationship challenges become easy to manage, and always helps me center myself back within my femininity. When I’m centered in that way, any challenges that I’m facing in my relationship seem to melt away. I highly recommend Dominique’s coaching services.
~ Mary
Dear Tinque,
You are extraordinary. I want to thank you for your courage and your
openness in writing Sex and Heart. It has provided the catalyst for me to open up and begin to explore my sensuality/sexuality with and without my partner.
Some dreadful fears are arising along the way, and when it gets too much I see a health professional to support me through, to help untangle what is happening, but my partner is very loving and supporting (and excited!) and is providing me with the non-judgmental love and support I need as I go on this journey.
I had a problem with going into extreme pain if my man looked at another woman, but I asked him about what you say about arousal of men when looking at other women, and he said “Yes, it’s SOOOOO true. It’s like an arousal switch. It gets me going and gives me ideas that I want to bring home to you. You have to trust me on this.”
I have begun to feel so much better. It’s both scary and wonderful, stifling and freeing. I feel incredibly joyous. THANK YOU so much.
Wishing you great love and peace.
~ A Reader in Melbourne, Australia
I bought your ebook this morning and I haven’t been able to put it down yet. I have always believed that when you ask, the answers you need will come to you in the perfect way. Finding your blog last week and reading your articles moved me in such a profound way. This is the work I am focused on, this is the path I’m currently on, this is the type of healing I can resonate with and your voice speaks to me like no other right now. I can feel your beautiful, loving energy and it inspires me to open up further and feel my own. I’ve been working and healing and learning by myself for the last 12 months after finally being able to let go of and leave an abusive marriage. I have come so far in this time and the healing is reflected in many fun, supportive, wonderful relationships with new friends, co-workers and with the loving relationship I attracted and created with my new man. It feels amazing to have that work validated and reflected back like a mirror and supported by someone who has been there and is continuing to expand on it further down the road. Your energy is tangible and complements where I am right now. It is a gorgeous gift, thank you for sharing it!
~ Rhona
Hello Tinque,
I was feeling resistant to reading your ebook. Sorry. In the last few months I’ve purchased several programs from other coaches, and I’m overwhelmed and broke! They all kind of say the same thing – rebuild self-esteem, make yourself busy, get a life, feel your feelings, etc. But I don’t know HOW to do these things. I know I should but HOW do I stop feeling afraid. HOW do I stop the gremlins? HOW do I feel happy? I started reading your book last night after the kids went to bed, and I was blown away! Your book feels as if it was written just for me. While we have different situations and very different men, however my feelings and my thoughts are very much the same as yours. I’ve been through the first 100 pages and I get it. I really get it. So much speaks to me that I’m going to need a second read just so I can mark it up. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for being the one to tell me HOW!!!
~ Michelle – New England