Wow, Dominique! At first, when I read the first paragraph, I went “Whaaaat???? Does she want us to call upon an escort to spice up the relationship?”
And my first reaction was “no way!”.
Then I continued reading your words and the more I read, the more I thought, “yeah, why not use the *tools* that escorts use, though?”
Great ideas and thoughts in there, as usual. You’re really great at observing and shining the light on new ways to maybe transform and improve a relationship.
I’m game, I will try and act like an escort the next time I see my man!
Francesca – I’m sorry it took me so long to respond to this. I didn’t receive my usual e-mail alert that there was a comment.
It’s not even using quote unquote escort tools though this can be fun; it’s more about being present, listening, keeping your heart open, remaining vulnerable, all the things I talk about.
Me suggest using an escort? You made me laugh. Though this may work out okay for some, I think you know me well enough to know I wouldn’t go that route myself or likely suggest it.
Let me know what you try and how it worked out. If you want to share that is.\
i am having a hard time dealing with x bf that says we are still friends, he will come around get me close to him and then drop me , i feel like all this is just a game to him an he gets all defensive when he gets called out on it. an i feel like a booty call to him, an its hurts me to know now that he likes to play cold shoulder all the time . and seems to ac like he cares one minute and the next he dont. i know this is all a game and he knows what he doing,, and does not care if he hurts me, like has been doing, . its tearing me apart to know he is ignoring me and wont respond to any of my messages or phone calls , .. with this in mind his daughter works with me and seems to have to tell him everything that goes on about me .. i ant go on or date or try and meet other men, i love him very much, and it seems to me that i feel like its not enough or too much, he always brings up the past when we talk often and we argue more than we did when we were together , how do i bring him closer to me and show him that i really love him and i wanna try to make this work again. or at least try one more time, lost and confused and hurt all in one ..
Rosa – Though I feel for you, and I feel sad you are feeling so torn up over this man, I can’t but ask why you would want to be with someone who treats you this poorly, as a booty call.
Your focus needs to come back to you, filling your life up with things, activities, people you love, which make you feel passionate.
This really doesn’t sound like love so much as an addiction.
Here are a few articles I would recommend you read -
And if you really want to have it all right at your fingertips or ears and eyes, my new video program has everything you need to heal yourself as well as attract AND keep the man of your dreams.
Wow, Dominique! At first, when I read the first paragraph, I went “Whaaaat???? Does she want us to call upon an escort to spice up the relationship?”
And my first reaction was “no way!”.
Then I continued reading your words and the more I read, the more I thought, “yeah, why not use the *tools* that escorts use, though?”
Great ideas and thoughts in there, as usual. You’re really great at observing and shining the light on new ways to maybe transform and improve a relationship.
I’m game, I will try and act like an escort the next time I see my man!
It can’t hurt and it might be fun!
Thank you!
Very interesting. I can see how this would work.
Wow… great article. Very inspiring and insightful! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Francesca – I’m sorry it took me so long to respond to this. I didn’t receive my usual e-mail alert that there was a comment.
It’s not even using quote unquote escort tools though this can be fun; it’s more about being present, listening, keeping your heart open, remaining vulnerable, all the things I talk about.
Me suggest using an escort? You made me laugh. Though this may work out okay for some, I think you know me well enough to know I wouldn’t go that route myself or likely suggest it.
Let me know what you try and how it worked out. If you want to share that is.\
xxoo
Sherry – I feel good seeing you understand. See above comment.
xxoo
Laura – Thank you for being here, and thank you for your lovely comment. It feels great knowing that this resonates with you.
xxoo
i am having a hard time dealing with x bf that says we are still friends, he will come around get me close to him and then drop me , i feel like all this is just a game to him an he gets all defensive when he gets called out on it. an i feel like a booty call to him, an its hurts me to know now that he likes to play cold shoulder all the time . and seems to ac like he cares one minute and the next he dont. i know this is all a game and he knows what he doing,, and does not care if he hurts me, like has been doing, . its tearing me apart to know he is ignoring me and wont respond to any of my messages or phone calls , .. with this in mind his daughter works with me and seems to have to tell him everything that goes on about me .. i ant go on or date or try and meet other men, i love him very much, and it seems to me that i feel like its not enough or too much, he always brings up the past when we talk often and we argue more than we did when we were together , how do i bring him closer to me and show him that i really love him and i wanna try to make this work again. or at least try one more time, lost and confused and hurt all in one ..
Rosa – Though I feel for you, and I feel sad you are feeling so torn up over this man, I can’t but ask why you would want to be with someone who treats you this poorly, as a booty call.
Your focus needs to come back to you, filling your life up with things, activities, people you love, which make you feel passionate.
This really doesn’t sound like love so much as an addiction.
Here are a few articles I would recommend you read -
http://sexandheart.com/are-you-with-a-toxic-or-commitment-phobic-man
http://sexandheart.com/thoughts-on-anger-and-addiction-part-one
http://sexandheart.com/thoughts-on-anger-and-addiction-part-two
I would also suggest you read everything you can on YOUR healing.
http://sexandheart.com/category/healing
And if you really want to have it all right at your fingertips or ears and eyes, my new video program has everything you need to heal yourself as well as attract AND keep the man of your dreams.
http://sexandheart.com/the-goddess-way
I wish you well, and I send you love. Please keep me updated.
xxoo